A Sure Fire Way To Keep The Marriage Alive
Posted: Wednesday, July 21, 2010
by Dr. Carla Goddard
One of the fastest ways to keep your marriage going strong is in the bedroom. Kama Sutra is an ancient text that is one of the leading guides to sensual pleasure. There are as many myths about Kuma Sutra as there are facts. It is true that if a person goes back and reads the actual ancient text some of it may seem irrelevant and even down right ridiculous. The key to remember is that Kama Sutra was written as a way to liven up the play in the bedroom. This guide is so much more than some illustrated book of positions to have sex in.
Sex is not about getting naked, intercourse, and turn over to go to sleep. The idea of Kama Sutra is to create the perfect stage each and every time you have sex. Changing it from the simple act of sex into an evening of love making.
The first idea that the Kama Sutra talks about is the preparation stage. Preparation includes hygiene for both partners. This includes things such as brushing your teeth and taking a bath. But this does not have to be a chore. Why not include taking a bath or shower with your partner as part of the evening's foreplay. If you decide on a bubble bath, don't forget the candles.
Preparation also includes setting the mood. The Kama Sutra suggests candles, silk and satin, soft lights and incense to help with the overall ambiance of the event. Sex should be like a sculptor taking a mound of clay, slowly caressing and sensually moving the sculptor's hands to form an object that produces pure unadulterated ecstasy. It should be an experience according to the theories of the Kama Sutra. A period of time before that builds up and intensifies the anticipation. The Kama Sutra has positions even for this foreplay that describe different embraces.
The second phase of Kama Sutra moves from the preparation phase into the foreplay phase. This is slowly and tenderly becoming more sexual. Throughout the preparation phase of Kama Sutra there has been no direct sexual foreplay. In this phase the first step towards the ultimate culmination is kissing. The Kama Sutra involves different styles of kissing to help both partners to become erotically aroused. The most common style of kissing is the "Bent kiss". This happens naturally among most couples. However, there are many other styles of kissing that are described by Kama Sutra from fellatio techniques to what is known as the "quivering kiss". Interestingly, what is now commonly called the 69 position originates from "the crow" in Kama Sutra techniques. It is considered one of the most erotic positions that provide an intense pleasure as it allows one to give and receive at the same time.
This phase brings couples into the ultimate culmination of love making. The various positions in Kama Sutra can enhance and stimulate both partners during this phase. The positions vary from lying down, sitting, rear entry and standing. Each position offering a new experience to fan the raging desires that have been built up from the two previous stages.
The final phase of Kama Sutra is the after play. This is the phase most often excluded from any love making event. The Kama Sutra stresses that some of the most intimate moments of love making actually happen after the penetration phase. Not sharing or experiencing this phase of love making leaves many couples out of the passionate moments that could have happened to further enhance the moments shared. After sex both the partners are full of endorphins that cause you to feel euphoric. Not sharing them with your partner will allow them to fade away into nothingness.
Instead, perhaps a warm shower together to freshen up the small droplets of sweat formed during the event. Or curl up together a softly chat with one another. The Kama Sutra suggests that this is sometimes when the best intimate conversations take place in a relationship. Regardless of how you spend the after play time, spend it with your partner. To quote the Kama Sutra "those things that increase passion should be done first and those for amusement should be done afterward".
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)I have never read the Karma Sutra, although it sounds like a book one should read.It is really an interesting read that will certainly change the bed room (among other rooms) if you do.mwahCarla
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